What is Compassionate Inquiry?

“Compassionate Inquiry is a somatic-based psychotherapeutic approach that gently uncovers and releases layers of childhood trauma, constriction and suppressed emotion embedded in the body, that are at the root of physical and mental illness and addiction.

Certain principles are maintained during a Compassionate Inquiry session. These are:

1.      The client is encouraged to bring a specific intention to each session.

2.      The client determines how much to engage in the session and may request to stop at any time.

3.      The practitioner may interrupt the client during the session to bring the client into awareness of the present moment and to body sensations and emotions.

4.      The practitioner follows the subtle cues of the client.”

This is the official definition of the modality and what you would expect from a session.

If you find yourself often getting triggered in your parenting, being reactive, knowing what to do but being helpless in implementing it in the moment, we can try Compassionate Inquiry together to help that inner child of yours heal.

If you are not a parent but you are struggling and would like to try this approach I am here to help.

If you are interested in learning more please book and Introductory call, I would love to discuss the approach with you.

My story with Compassionate Inquiry

I heard of Gabor Mate when I was reading the book he wrote with Gordon Neufeld, one of my most important teachers. I was hooked. I read all his books and watched every youtube video with him talking. When he launched the Compassionate Inquiry program back in 2020 I immediately registered. It was the hardest three years of my life but the most enlightening ones as well. I thought I was going to learn an approach as I did with my other courses, but the course focused more on healing the helpers and less on the approach. I faced some really challenging times with my own healing during this course…

I didn’t certify three times as a Practitioner due to my own personal limitations from my trauma. I really had to work hard on loving myself to pass this course and I did! Such a gift to myself. I am forever grateful to him for seeing the value in me that I couldnt see myself.

I am not a therapist…

The truth is I am not a therapist, and do not offer therapy.

I’m a human being and no amount of training will change that my ability to be present with you will be circumvented by my own past, my own limitations, my own triggers, and where I’m presently situated within my own ongoing healing process.

But as I continue to engage in my own Compassionate Self-Inquiry, it is a reflection of my own skill, honesty, and ability to be vulnerable, that I can be clear with you about my limitations as we confront them. I will never pretend to know something I don’t or to be capable of something I’m not. If I’m not sure, I’ll let you know that, too. You and I can decide if we think it’s worth exploring together, maybe something that we learn collaboratively through a mutual dedication to honesty and vulnerability.

This is what I love about CI. Within this framework, I’m encouraged to be honest about the fact that we are just two human beings, each with our own strengths, weaknesses, and challenges. I’m not the one who knows better or is wiser or more healed than you. I hold no keys to healing, and I don’t offer advice. This is deeply honest about what people can be to one another. But it’s not a problem to solve; we evolved to need other humans accompanying us on our life’s journey through growth and healing!

It is my intention to show up as another human being by your side in whatever way I can. I will draw on the knowledge base and wisdom I have gleaned from much training and reading. But, ultimately, my intention is just to be a person who is truly present, with compassion, to you and all your inner parts, seen and unseen, heard and unheard.

I hope that our time together is an enriching component in your journey through healing, parenting, and exploration of self.